The trauma community loves to talk about “healing your inner child” and spiritual cliques promote “shadow work” or healing “generational curses” but few explain why or how. Without any mumbo jumbo, all this really means is that you cannot sustain what your subconscious doesn’t feel “safe to have.”

It's like eating food with just a little bit of arsenic on it. You feel like your needs are getting met, especially if you're worried about starving, but you're also slowly dying.

Some people spend so much time and energy trying to manage others' reactions or even potential reactions that they create the very drama they fear!